- Why is this happening?
- How will it affect your life?
- What should you do about it?
Question1: Why is this happening?
Simply put, porn has reached both a cultural saturation level and a ‘ubiquity tipping point’ . See the graphic below and you will see visual evidence for the cultural saturation level. Coupled with what I am calling a ‘ubiquity tipping point’, and you have the recipe for disillusion amidst addiction, and a widespread raising of the white flag from porn consumers. In essence, porn is not delivering on its promise, and long-time consumers are taking note.
Question 2: How will it affect your life?
Most likely, it already has. Whether you have been or currently are a consumer of porn, or are in a relationship with someone who has been or is currently a consumer of porn, you are already being affected by porn. The most banal effect of porn is on sexual expectations. If you are married, if you or your spouse has been a porn consumer, individuals can find it challenging not to compare their own sexual relationship to what they have viewed in porn.
Question 3: What should you do about it?
- Stop it. Do whatever it takes to stop it, and to do so with all immediate speed.
- Talk about it. If you’re married, have a candid conversation with your spouse about porn. This might be a difficult conversation, but it is a necessary one. If this isn’t a struggle area for you or your spouse, be grateful - and begin to look for ways to help others in this area; you won’t have to look hard to find people to serve.
- Re-wire your brain. Porn re-wires the brain. Let the resources of God’s grace help to heal the effects of porn. I will expound on the topic of how to re-wire the brain in the next post.
Suggested Resource: Wired for Intimacy (Struthers) http://www.amazon.com/Wired-Intimacy-Pornography-Hijacks-Brain/dp/0830837000