Ever wanted more out of your communication with your spouse? Either for you to be able to get across what you mean or for them to actually share how they feel towards you, we all want more of this.
In the early years of our marriage, it usually took a fight for Christy and I to actually communicate intimately. I would be standoffish (also known as pouting), and she would have to draw communication out of me. Real mature on my part.
I can remember one such moment very vividly, as we followed the above pattern, but it then ended with me being able to communicate: When I behold you, I see God’s creative beauty. It was something I had believed for years, but had never articulated. She liked it. But it didn’t need to take a fight to have intimate communication.
Paul faced a similar communication issue with the church at Corinth:
We have spoken freely to you, Corinthians; our heart is wide open. You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted in your own affections. In return, widen your hearts also. (2 Corinthians 6:11-13 ESV)
- Speak freely
- Have an open heart
- Be unrestricted in your affections
- Reciprocate (Return) open-hearted, free speaking communication
These are relational skills that take time to develop. Therefore, you do well to give yourself and your spouse grace as you both grow in developing these skills. Towards that end, below are some couple exercises to aid your intimate communication process.
There is more for you and your spouse to experience; don’t wait – go get it!